Soul Midwifery, or "You only live...how many times?!"

It’s been a while since I blogged, and much has gone on. Last May I was wondering, now that I’ve retired, what I was for. (See the blog post 'But What Am I For'). Since then I have met a ‘soul midwife’. She works as a management consultant for a living, but in her spare time volunteers at a local hospice, working with the dying and their relatives. While the nurses take care of the dying patients’ physical needs, a soul midwife helps them deal with their emotions, thoughts, and/or spiritual issues, (not their religious ones – there are priests and ministers, imans and rabbis etc for that.) 

Those who’ve read my previous blogs will know that I’ve had personal experiences which have led me to believe that there is more than the physical dimension to life. In fact my experiences lead me to believe that the physical dimension is just the tip of the iceberg. Intellectually, i.e. thinking this through rationally, the existence of dimensions prior and causal to the material world seems to me to make perfect sense. Not that you can prove the existence of non-material realms to others from within the material realm itself. But you can’t disprove them either, so we‘re a bit stuck on the empirical front. Nevertheless, the empirical approach has served physical science so well for the last few centuries, it’s no wonder that physicalist-inclined people would like to apply it to the non-physical as well.

I have done some serious thinking about applying to become a soul midwife, and as a result I have also done some in-depth reading and re-reading on death, which has also led me back to the literature on ‘out of the body’ experiences. I started with the spiritual classics, those written by people with direct experience (mystics), which have been revived again and again down the centuries (the books, not the people writing them), and then onto books written by people who have recently actively experimented with out of the body travelling. Their descriptions of what they have discovered are as different as descriptions of the physical world by people inhabiting differing regions of it, but there are some aspects which seem common to all, regardless of where and when the experiences were written about, or the culture or religion of the person(s) writing.

The first seems to be that we have not just one body, and not just two – the material and the immaterial – but four. They're called different things in different traditions but I'm going to call them 1) the physical, 2) the psychological, 3)  the spiritual and 4) the causal. The psychological body is composed of your thoughts and emotions, and is sometimes called the astral body, and this is the one that I'm mainly going to talk about in this post. Note that the psychological body has a separate existence from the physical body. All four bodies exist in the same place, in the same person, but in different dimensions, which overlap. Furthermore, there are several planes or dimensions for the second and third bodies (the psychological and the spiritual) to move between. Of course, the ’bodies’ don’t actually move at all, it is the level of our consciousness that changes, like re-tuning to a different wavelength. The wavelength we are on most of the time is where the psychological and physical body overlap

Those who go ‘astral travelling’ have learnt to re-tune to the level of their psychological body without their physical body and, when their physical body is asleep, can stay conscious and move around without the aid of that physical body. (What people tend to see in this state however is the physical world overlaid by the psychological world, with the psychological world prominent so it looks a bit different to what your physical eyes see- this bit gets fairly convoluted to explain, and I refer you to one of the books recommended at the end of this blog.) It seems to be a fairly common experience that in this state you will meet up with other sleeping people wandering around in their psychological bodies. You can chat and arrange to meet up again but, unless those people are also consciously in their psychological bodies, they won’t remember a thing in the morning. You can also meet up with dead people still in their psychological bodies as well. In fact, if the classics and those who claim to write out of direct experience are right, you do this every night while you’re asleep (or in a coma) anyway. That’s not what your dreams are about though, or very rarely. Dreams are usually your physical brain rummaging around trying to process waking experiences. However sometimes you may bring back to your waking state rather distorted memories of a dream which touches on what’s happened to you in the psychological realm. There is usually a slightly ‘magical’ feeling to these dream fragments, even distorted as they are.

Those who have done it say that you can learn to stay conscious when you’re asleep with about a month of daily practice. I can’t say I’m attracted to this myself. When I was a child I used to experience the sensations which I now know are also the beginnings of a trip into the psychological realm, and as a child my instinct was to fight it and stop it happening. I think such fear is natural. I also now believe I’m in this physical body for a reason, and will only be in it for a limited time. Personally I don’t want to be too distracted while I’m physically embodied by haring off into the other dimensions (I really, really want to get the hang of this dimension.) I also wonder about the practicality of such adventures while regularly sharing a bed with somebody, or if you’re likely to be needed by a child whilst away, mainly because, at the slightest disturbance, you will snap straight back into your physical body. Of course, that’s a good thing on a practical level, but must be annoying if you were in the middle of something interesting in the psychological world.

I am however very grateful to those who have been courageous enough to go through with these experiences, and then talk and write about them.

There is widespread agreement among mystic sources that when we die the cord connecting our psychological and physical bodies breaks, leaving our physical body to dissolve back into its component parts for re-use. There is also something often referred to as an etheric substance, which has acted as the connecting medium for the psychological and physical bodies. This too begins to disintegrate when the physical body dies, but on some occasions this etheric substance can stubbornly cling to the psychological body. Sometimes the dead person does not want to give up this etheric substance, their connection to physical life. Sometimes it takes an act of will to shrug it off (not always), and sometimes some people just don’t realise they’re dead, which means the person's consciousness hangs about, not quite in either the physical or psychological world, and a little in both. (One wonders if this might explain some ‘ghost’ sightings).

The first truly psychological dimension from beyond the physical very much resembles the physical world, but your psychological body, as mentioned, is composed of your emotions and thoughts. So, though you are no longer encumbered by physical handicaps, illness, hunger, thirst, physical pain etc. you are just as encumbered with your emotions. If you were a prejudiced, bigoted person when alive this won’t change just because you’re dead, as David Staume so beautifully puts it. And another across–the-board point of agreement is that the heavier the emotions you’re carrying, the closer to the physical plane (i.e. the ‘lower’ in the psychological plane) you’ll stay. Furthermore, like seeks to like here; you’ll be surrounded by others carrying the unpleasant heavier emotions. By ‘heavier’ I mean emotions like hate, jealousy, greed, arrogance, envy, anger, guilt, remorse and so on. One analogy I’ve read is that it’s like your heaviest emotions drift to the exterior of your newly exposed psychological body, blocking the light and weighing you down. It is said to be extremely unpleasant – hellish even. But in fact it’s only purgatory. Unless a person is extremely determined to hang on to their negative emotions, rebuilding and reinforcing them, that heavy outer cladding will eventually wear away, leaving the person free to float up to a lighter place within that first psychological plane, and be with equally light people, where they can prepare to move onto an even more refined psychological plane. There seems to be agreement that there are seven psychological planes in all (it's difficult to tell if that 'seven' is a factual number or symbolic of something), most of which, once you’ve divested yourself of your negative emotions, could be described as ‘paradise’. When you’re bored with them, and have suitably refined yourself, you’ll shed your psychological body and pass on to the first of the spiritual ‘heavens’ in your newly revealed spiritual body. Some extremely evolved people have managed, with inside help, to get into one or more of these paradises and heavens while still alive, and stayed conscious enough to be able to talk about it on their return, but all agree that it is a very difficult experience to put into words, and one mostly has to use analogies, metaphors, symbols etc. Others, after a lifetime of dedicated spiritual practices, remember their own time between lives, which brings us to the topic of reincarnation, on which even Christian mystics are agreed.

Some people don’t get very far through these planes at all before being swept back down into the physical plane and another physical body by karma, or by their own longing to be embodied again, for sheer physical pleasure or for the sort of further development that only being embodied physically can provide. (Two of my sources, but only two, state that some people never incarnate in a physical body if they don’t have to – they consider it just too unpleasant and demanding an experience! The rest of us, it seems, are like, well yeah, go for it!) But even though it takes several hundred, if not thousands of physical lives to get the experience to develop fully, all the sources seem to agree it’s worth it, because beyond the psychological and spiritual dimensions is the causal dimension, blissful beyond description. (Also described as ‘arriving back home’)

But back to where I started this blog. In our materialist world many people don’t start to think about what’s coming after death, if anything, until they’re quite near it.  Some people naturally get very frightened by the thought of dying (and some are just relieved). There are ‘helpers’ just on ‘the other side’ waiting to come to the aid of anyone who will let them, but apparently these helpers often have a hard time getting through to people who, coming from such a materialist world where physicalists reign supreme, have no idea where they are, or why, or who simply refuse to believe what they are experiencing.

However, I have come to the conclusion that if people do not know about all this until they're just about to die, it could be very daunting. Ideally, people could know about this and think about it for themselves long before they reach that stage. Soul-midwifery goes with whatever beliefs the dying person has.

So I think I'll continue trying to communicate all this only to the still-very-much-living. Undertaking soul-midwifery demands a different set of knowledge and skills, and I have already undertaken development in some of those earlier in my life,  so considering applying for the relevant training is still on the table.

Your thoughts and comments are more than welcome, both about soul-midwifery, and about the metaphysical worldview set out above. (It’s actually very difficult to add a comment in the boxes below for the purpose, but if you email me your comment at  helenjdavis1955@gmail.com  . I’ll cut and paste them in.)

If this topic is of interest to you, I'd recommend you read 'The Beginners' Guide for the Recently Deceased' by David Staume, and 'Adventures beyond the Body' by William Buhlman.

PS: Apparently, it's still possible to have sex without having a physical body....